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How Do You Relate to Your Parents?

How do you relate to your parents? Do you regularly check in with the people who brought you into this world? Do you know what kind of lives they led before you were born?

These are all burning questions that we really wanted to understand, so we decided to do some research into how people relate to and understand their parents.

The Wall Street Journal covered our findings about how people really feel about — and how much they actually know about — their parents. What really stands out is that many people are not fully connected with their parents, with 25% of U.S. respondents admitting that they haven't spoken to their parents in the last month.

Keeping in Touch

When was the last time you caught up with your parents and checked in to see how they were doing? Our research found that 30% of those living in the western part of the country haven't spoken to their parents in the last month, compared to those living in the Midwest — 83% of them have spoken to their parents in the past month.

Mom and Dad: Before You Were Born


Our research also shows that many people in the U.S. are somewhat in the dark about what their parents' lives were like before they had kids. When it comes to piecing together the personal histories of their parents, 45% of people report that they’ve learned more about their parents’ lives from discovering family possessions, overhearing conversations, or speaking with other family members, rather than directly from their parents themselves.

On top of this, 35% of those surveyed said they really admire their parents' achievements but have little understanding as to how they accomplished what they did. Another 21% said they didn't know anything about their mother and father before they became parents. Those aged 45 to 65 years old knew the least about their parents' lives before they had children.

Can you relate? Have you ever sat down with your parents to talk about their early lives?

Appreciating Your Parents

About two-thirds of men and nearly half of women said that their parents made sacrifices to provide them with life-changing opportunities. People living in the western part of the country felt this most strongly (66%), and well over half of the people in every region agreed. We all know that parenting is the hardest job in the world, so perhaps this isn't too surprising!

In light of these findings, we think it’s time to start a conversation. If your parents are still alive and you have the opportunity to speak to them in person, ask them about their lives before you were born! Doing so could deepen your bond. Even better, how about giving them the gift of turning their life story into a StoryTerrace book? Our customers often tell us how moved their parents have been to receive this meaningful gift!

For more information on how to keep your parents’ stories alive with a StoryTerrace book, contact us to schedule a free consultation. You can also sign up for our newsletter to receive more original content from us!

Honoring Unsung Heroines

Katherine Johnson, an American mathematician whose work was critical to the success of NASA's Space Shuttle program, recently passed away at the age of 101. Her story inspired the popular film Hidden Figures, which brought long-overdue recognition to African-American women’s contribution to this slice of recent history.

With her legacy in mind, we wanted to share with you the stories of other incredible women who have made a positive impact on the world, yet whose work has largely stayed under the radar. Today, we're shining the light on these incredible women who you may never have heard of.

Let's begin with the woman who inspired our search:

Katherine Johnson (1918-2020)

Katherine Johnson, along with several other female mathematicians, overcame racial and gender-based discrimination to become an integral part of NASA’s work in space exploration. As if that wasn't enough, Katherine then spent her retirement encouraging students to enter the fields of science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. Thankfully, her work didn’t go unrecognized: In 2015, Katherine received the Presidential Medal of Freedom from Barack Obama.

Perhaps the key to her success was the belief her father instilled in her when she was growing up. “My dad taught us, ‘You are as good as anybody in this town but you’re no better,’” Johnson said. “I don’t have a feeling of inferiority. Never had. I’m as good as anybody, but no better.”

Dorothy Height (1912-2010)

A revolutionary leader of the civil rights movement, Dorothy Height devoted her life to improving the circumstances of and opportunities available for African-American women in the United States.

She began her career when she joined the staff of the Harlem Young Women's Christian Association, where she traveled the country helping local chapters implement the organization’s interracial charter.

Height continued her revolutionary work with the National Council of Negro Women, which focused on ending the lynching of African-Americans and restructuring the criminal justice system. In 1963, Height, along with other civil rights activists, organized the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, where Martin Luther King, Jr. delivered his historic "I Have a Dream" speech in which he called for racism to end.

Irena Sendler (1910-2008)

Social worker Irena Sendler saved over 2,500 Jewish children from the Holocaust by smuggling them to safety in an ambulance and taking them through underground passages.

When the Nazis invaded Warsaw in 1939, Sendler began helping Jews by offering them food and shelter. But when the Warsaw Ghetto was erected in 1940, she could no longer help any of the 450,000 Jewish people who became isolated there.

Remarkably, Irena used her papers as a social worker to enter the Warsaw Ghetto. Irena, along with her colleagues, made over 3,000 false documents to give Jewish people new identities to help them escape from being sent to the Nazi extermination camps. Irena and her colleagues worked tirelessly to place the children safely with Polish families, orphanages, and convents.

In October 1943, the Gestapo came to Irena´s home to arrest her. Thankfully, she had hidden the identity cards and birth certificates of the children she had saved. She was imprisoned and due for execution, yet her colleagues were able to bribe officials to release her. Irena went on to give herself a false name, “Klara Dąbrowska” and hid in various places across Warsaw before co-founding an orphanage after Poland was liberated in 1945.

Alice Guy-Blaché (1873–1968)

Born in Paris, Alice Guy-Blaché was the world's first female film director. During her career, she made over 1,000 films and was credited with being one of the first filmmakers to synchronize sound with picture. Despite these accomplishments, this pivotal talent from the dawn of cinema faded into obscurity.

Guy-Blaché attended meetings with cinema pioneers such as the Lumière brothers and went on to build a successful film company in the United States in the pre-Hollywood era, telling the New York Clipper in 1912 that “I have produced some of the biggest productions ever released by a motion picture company.”

Guy-Blaché recognized the true storytelling potential of what was then a new medium and used groundbreaking techniques in her work, including extensive experimentation with early visual effects, travelogues, and scenes from everyday life. A true pioneer, she also directed A Fool and His Money, the first film to feature an all African-American cast.

In her memoirs, Guy-Blaché understood that she would never receive the credit she deserved for her hard work, writing, “My youth, my inexperience, my sex all conspired against me." But let it be known that we're inspired by her persevering spirit and legacy, and hope that you are, too.

Are you ready to start writing your memoirs? Get in touch to arrange a chat with our friendly team to see how we can help, or join our mailing list for more updates about researching your past and writing your autobiography.

Premium Writer

Carole Richardson

Carole Richardson is an NCTJ qualified journalist with a long career as a reporter and ghostwriter. She got her start as a newspaper reporter at age 18 and wrote for the Sheffield Morning Telegraph, Yorkshire Post, and Lancashire Evening Post. She later turned freelance for the freedom to work on magazine features and ghostwriting books. Her first foray into ghostwriting for Simon & Schuster was a Sunday Times bestseller.

Today Carole lives in Chorley, Lancashire. She enjoys spending time with her family and her beloved cat, Oscar.

Carole as a rather nervous-looking bridesmaid in Yorkshire, 1964

ST: When did you first realize you wanted to be a writer?

When I was 10, after being paid fifty pence (a fortune!) for getting a poem published in Princess Tina magazine. I was a child scribe!

ST: Whose biography would you most like to write?

Right now, Dragons' Den's Sara Davies’ dad, to prove to her that she made a mistake not investing in StoryTerrace. (Bit cheeky, I know!)

ST: If you were writing a StoryTerrace book of your life, what would be the title and why?

Born Nosy! I have always been intrigued by what drives people and makes them tick.

ST: Describe StoryTerrace in 3 words.

Important Stories Immortalised

ST: What is your idea of perfect happiness?

My eldest son’s wedding in July going without a hitch. Fingers crossed!

ST: What is your biggest fear?

Coronavirus, at the moment.

ST: What trait do you admire most in others?

Honesty and kindness. Sorry, I know that’s two.

ST: If you hadn’t become a writer, what career would you have right now?

Psychotherapist.

ST: What is your most treasured possession?

A shell my youngest son found and gave to me on a beach in Portugal after I’d been looking at an extortionately priced similar one in a nearby shop.

ST: Who are your favorite writers?

I love Marian Keyes’ early stuff (Rachel’s Holiday and Watermelon), and am a huge fan of the way Liane Moriarty (Big Little Lies) effortlessly weaves such apt psychological insights into her books. More recently, I’m enjoying Sally Rooney’s Normal People.

ST: What fictional character do you most identify with?

Bridget Jones! I’m much older than her, but still equally scatty at times.

ST: What is your motto?

I can’t claim credit as my husband first quoted it, and it’s become a bit of a family joke mantra: "Love many, trust few, and always paddle your own canoe." Apparently, it’s an old American proverb.

Carole with her husband John on their wedding day in 1988

Lightning Round!

ST: Morning lark or night owl?

Lark.

ST: Truth or dare?

Truth, every time.

ST: Summer or winter?

Summer, but not too hot.

ST: City or country?

Country, but close to a railway station for a quick exit when necessary.

ST: X-ray vision or time travel?

X-ray vision.

If Carole's enthusiasm for learning about people and their unique stories has inspired you to get to work on your own biography, get in touch to schedule a free consultation, or sign up for our newsletter to hear more from our growing pool of writers.

Everyone has a story to tell, and sometimes the most amazing stories come from those who have been around the longest. Our elderly relatives have witnessed history and often made history themselves. We think their stories should be celebrated — and we’re not the only ones who feel that way.

Indeed, the United Nations recognizes the importance of listening to and learning from older people, saying that “Older people have always played a significant role in society as leaders, caretakers, and custodians of tradition.”

With that in mind, the stories of care home and assisted living residents deserve to be preserved, recorded, and shared in whatever form fits them best. Here are some initiatives that are doing just that, along with some of the most intriguing stories they’ve captured.

The Museum of Life Histories

This museum, based at the Hof Speicher Retirement Center in Switzerland, was founded in 2005. Inspired by the rich and fascinating lives of the residents at the Center, the staff began recording life stories and turning them into exhibits for the general public.

That’s how Gertrude Rodowski-von Känel was able to tell her story. Gertrude was born in 1911 in what was then East Prussia. After an idyllic adolescence, she and her husband lived through the advent of the Second World War. During this turbulent time, she risked everything to flee the Nazi regime and spent many years traveling before finally finding a place to call home: Switzerland.

The historic importance of Gertrude’s story is obvious, but it’s also an incredibly moving tale of bravery and resilience that might inspire anyone facing adversity. Thanks to the Museum of Life Histories, people from all over the world can learn from her example. And that’s just one of many stories that have surprised and delighted visitors to this unique museum over the years.

Gertrude Rodowski-von Känel and her husband Friedrich in 1940

Memoir Writing With Technology

Many nursing homes and long-term care residences recognize the value of reminiscence, and some even have memoir-writing initiatives of their own. These take a range of different forms, but they always have one thing in common: Technology plays a part in making them work.

Rhona Handcock is one care home resident who benefited hugely from technology when it came to writing her memoirs. Based in a care home in the UK, she was able to take on the project herself despite being declared legally blind in 1996. This was thanks to a specially modified computer with an enlarged keyboard and screen.

Rhona Hancock typing up her life story at Hastings Court Care Home

Technology often has a role to play in capturing stories and making them available for future generations. That tech might be an accessible computer, but it might also be a Zoom call or FaceTime chat. Technology can help keep people connected and allow us to learn about the lives of our relatives even when we can’t see them face to face.

Two Cups of Tea

Technology can be used in the sharing of stories, too. The Two Cups of Tea podcast is a great example of this. Run by author Chris Heath, this fortnightly podcast captures the stories of elderly people in the form of a conversation over — you guessed it! — a cup of tea or two.

In one episode, the podcast captured the story of Barry Ward, a man who had experienced his fair share of adventures in his life. Barry had done a little of everything, from traveling Europe as a competitive boxer to working as a police constable in Bermuda. During his later career as a journalist, he met a dazzling range of famous personalities, including Muhammed Ali.

Each episode featured someone with a story just as incredible as Barry’s. As podcast creator Chris Heath said,

“What I’ve found is that it’s not the amazing deeds or achievements that are necessarily the standout moments, but the commonalities and the familiar details that unite us. I have honestly never laughed so much in my life as with the people I’ve been recording with. First and foremost, this podcast aims to show that everyone has a fascinating story to relate, regardless of age or circumstance.”

StoryCorps

StoryCorps is an innovative, Emmy award-winning organization dedicated to capturing and sharing personal stories. Their Memory Loss Initiative is focused on recording the stories of older people living with dementia.

There’s plenty of research showing that speaking, listening, and telling stories from the past can be of great benefit to anyone. When it comes to people with memory loss, storytelling has been shown to improve memory as well as mood and happiness.

Barbara Handelsman is one woman who worked with StoryCorps on this initiative, during which she and her grandson shared memories of past adventures. These included exploring a river in inflatable canoes, and venturing past No Entry signs in the woods. It’s easy to see how the process of recording memories often leads to long-forgotten moments and surprising revelations coming to the surface. Listen to a sample below to hear the power of storytelling in action:

Listen to Barbara Handelsman reminiscing on personal memories with her grandson:

https://storycorps.org/embed/38288/

In Conclusion

StoryCorps, the Two Cups of Tea podcast, and many other initiatives all have one very important idea at heart: that everyone has a story worth telling. That’s why it’s vitally important to talk to our elderly relatives — especially those who require additional care. Doing so is illuminating and enlivening for everyone involved, and it also brings out amazing stories that might never be heard any other way.

If you want to give someone the gift of their life story, professionally written and bound, try a StoryTerrace biography. Get in touch to find out more about how it works and schedule a preliminary chat, or sign up for our newsletter for more about the work we do.

Memoir-writing service StoryTerrace honors the unsung heroes of the COVID-19 pandemic

Showcasing the incredible stories of the nation’s everyday heroes during lockdown

With just two weeks remaining in the 'Unsung Heroes' campaign, leading biography StoryTerrace encourages communities to highlight local acts of kindness

To view all the Unsung Heroes submissions, visit the microsite: storyterrace.com/unsung-heroes

In the past two months, countless stories of everyday heroism and unselfish acts have not only lifted the spirits of the nation but kept communities going through some extraordinarily tough times. Unsung Heroes aims to bring to light the everyday acts of kindness that have characterized this lockdown, from saving lives to feeding a neighbor’s cat while communities recover.

Over 400 nominations have revealed some truly inspiring stories from every facet of society; countless frontline workers, a professional chef feeding teachers and children at a local elementary school, and small business owners that have shifted production to masks and scrubs for medical workers.

The national biography-writing service will be creating a book, compiling the nation’s everyday heroes and their unique stories of selflessness, and creating a website to showcase all those nominated at storyterrace.com/unsung-heroes.

Of the submissions, 25 amazing Unsung Heroes will be gifted with the final book, within which, their stories will be captured as part of a national keepsake.

The submissions will use an image of the nominee alongside a small paragraph of text explaining their story posted to social media, accompanied by the hashtag #UnsungHeroes and collated by StoryTerrace. The campaign allows anyone to nominate someone in their life who has gone above and beyond to help others– these could be nurses, doctors or even simply good samaritans.

How it Works

Anyone can nominate a hero on StoryTerrace’s website: storyterrace.com/unsung-heroes

Alternatively, entrants can post on their Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter by using the #UnsungHeroes hashtag and @StoryTerrace handle. The campaign is open for entries until June 30th, and StoryTerrace will announce the selected nominees before the end of July. All the entries can be found on the website.

StoryTerrace's ‘Unsung Heroes’ campaign has helped motivate community members to share the stories of heroes of the COVID-19 crisis.

Rutger Bruining, CEO and Founder of StoryTerrace comments:

“As millions around the globe are currently stuck at home, many of us are feeling nostalgic and reminiscing – and at StoryTerrace, we believe that sharing stories can be one of the most therapeutic ways for us to connect in this difficult time. Through StoryTerrace, I have learned that above all, a sense of community is vital for our mental health and well-being—and preserving and reminiscing on our own life stories is so important to our happiness. Documenting memories and the emotions attached to them allow us to share and reminisce on our personal tales – and everyone has a story worth sharing.”

About StoryTerrace

StoryTerrace is a company which connects everyday people with professional ghost-writers, meaning that everyone can have their life story, or the life stories of their loved ones, documented in a professionally curated autobiography, biography or series of memoirs. They have a network of 600 professional writers worldwide, many of whom are critically acclaimed, and provide a range of packages to suit each individual life story.

StoryTerrace's BookMaker platform - which includes a questionnaire - helps turn stories into books

StoryTerrace has previously made the first part of their service (a tailored questionnaire) available for anyone stuck at home who would like to get started on their life story for free. But having been overwhelmed by the acts of kindness and selflessness from around the country during this time, they have decided to pay tribute to these heroes through the ‘Unsung Heroes’ campaign.

If you would like to hear more about our Unsung Heroes campaign, please don't hesitate to contact us: press@storyterrace.com

Your memoir is the story of your life, complete with all its twists, turns, ups, downs, surprises, and triumphs. It’s an important book, both to you personally and to the friends and family who will read it in the years to come.

To celebrate the launch of the BookMaker - our unique in-house platform that we use to create all of our personalized biographies - we are opening up a free version of our questionnaire and book Cover Creator tool so that you can have a start on putting your story together.

That’s why it’s smart to spend some time thinking about the first things a reader will see when they pick up your book: the title and cover photo.

These two things together should sum up your story, while also inviting the reader to open the cover and dive into the narrative of your life. That’s no small job! So how can you go about selecting the perfect title and photograph to present your book to the world?

Your Title

Whether your memoir is 5,000 words or 50,000, the title has to encapsulate it all. Here are some tips for making that happen:

Keep It Simple

It’s tempting to try to cram all the highlights from your memoir into your title. After all, you want to draw in your reader with all the most exciting parts of your story, right?

With a title, though, you should aim to capture the feel of your book without giving everything away. Keep your title relatively short, and focus it on a single concept or idea. StoryTerrace memoirs Reflections at 80, Born Different and Totally Driven are all great examples of titles that sum up a story without any risk of spoilers.

"When it comes to a title, the simplest and most obvious is always best, something that sums up the essence of your story and feels familiar to your loved ones. Much like the photo you choose for your front cover, the title will have often been with you throughout your life ..." - StoryTerrace Editor Beth Williams

Match the Tone

What’s the tone of your memoir? Is your book about a life full of laughter, or is it about overcoming challenges? Will it make readers laugh or bring tears to their eyes?

The tone of your title should match the tone of your memoir so that readers know what kind of journey they’re about to embark on. If your book is funny, make your title amusing too — but avoid a jokey title if your memoir is more serious or inspiring.

A Two-Parter?

You want your title to sound good, but you also want it to tell readers what to expect. Packing both into a short title can be a difficult task. So why not break your title in two?

Start with something punchy and short, then add a longer explanation. Patricia Coburn did this with her StoryTerrace memoir, Between Barbed Wire: Melodies of Survival & Songs of Forgiveness.

Find Inspiration

If you’re stuck for ideas, take a look at the titles of the books on your bookshelf. Which ones do you like the sound of? Jot them down and see if you can adapt them to fit your story.

Of course, when writing your memoirs with StoryTerrace, you don’t have to brainstorm alone! Ask your ghostwriter to help you craft the perfect title.

Your Cover Image

Now that you’ve got your title, you need the perfect cover photo to accompany it. But how do you pick the right one from what might be hundreds of photographs on hand?

“A great cover always starts with a meaningful photo. Often you will have loved and cherished this photo your whole life ..." - StoryTerrace Editor Beth Williams

Portrait or Landscape?

Most books are laid out in portrait rather than landscape; that is, they are typically taller than they are wide. Does this mean it’s always better to choose a portrait picture for the cover rather than a landscape one?

Yes and no. If you want your picture to occupy the entire cover, a portrait image is ideal, but landscape photographs can also be used. Designers can crop images, supplement them with other elements, or even wrap them around the entire cover.

So while it’s good to keep the orientation of your photo in mind, don’t worry too much if it’s not book-shaped. The most important thing is to make sure it’s evocative and high-quality.

A High-Quality Image

You want your chosen image to look great when reproduced in print. That means having a high resolution — a high number of pixels or Dots Per Inch (DPI). 600DPI is a good resolution to aim for.

That’s easy if you’re scanning in an old photograph — just select a resolution of 600DPI or higher on your scanner. Some old digital photographs, on the other hand, might be too small or too low-resolution to look good on the cover of your book. These might be better off on one of the interior pages instead.

Action and Drama

Once you’ve narrowed down your selection to a few high-quality images, great! Now you’ll want to pick one that is dramatic, interesting, and lively.

If your cover image is a picture of you, you might consider choosing an image in which you’re laughing, or a picture taken on a particularly momentous day in your life. You might even select an old photo that evokes a feeling of happiness or nostalgia.

Particularly if looking through pictures of yourself, it can be difficult to “read” the mood of an image. Showing your shortlist of pictures to friends and family (or to your StoryTerrace ghostwriter) can help you work out which one suits your memoir best.

Ideas

Still stuck for ideas? Why not take a look at these inspirational covers, or take a look at your own bookshelf for some ideas of what looks good when it comes to a cover image.

Help Is at Hand

If your head is buzzing with ideas for great titles or cover photos for your memoir, great! But don’t worry if you’re still having trouble. You can bounce ideas off your StoryTerrace ghostwriter or consult the design team at StoryTerrace for help with selecting an outstanding cover photo.

In fact, StoryTerrace is here to help you at every stage of the memoir-writing process. Our goal is to help you put your story into a book that you can be proud of — title and cover image included.

If you would like to make a start on your life story, you can create a free account on our BookMaker platform, to access our life story questionnaire and design your very own book cover - for free!

The link to sign up for free: www.storyterrace.com/free-questionnaire

Our Founder Rutger tried out the Cover Creator - here's his mock-up book "An Untold Legacy"

Are you thinking about writing your memoirs? Do you already have some ideas? Get in touch to arrange a chat with our friendly team to see how we can help. Or join our mailing list for more expert guidance from our in-house team!

Born in the Chinese Year of the Dragon, Chef German Lam is full of fire and light. He takes seriously his role as a dragon, identifying strongly with this powerful, mythical king of all animals. German is intense, a natural talker who wants to make sure that you get exactly what he’s trying to tell you.

And the thing is, what he wants to tell you just might save your life — or at least make it more worth living.

I had the pleasure of speaking with German about his transition from top professional chef to entrepreneur, his battle with cancer, his philosophy of life, and his plans to help others with their own health struggles. He’s a passionate crusader, and his enthusiasm for better living through eating is impossible to deny.

The cover of German Lam’s StoryTerrace autobiography

The "freestyle lifestyle" creator was born in Santiago, Chile, to parents who had emigrated from China. He developed his knowledge of fine cuisine from his father, who managed a butcher shop, and carried those lessons with him as the family moved to Brighton, Massachusetts, in 1970. German’s parents wanted to give their children the best opportunities that an American life could offer.

For his part, German worked hard to build his career as a chef, serving at five-star restaurants in the Ritz-Carlton Hotels of Cleveland and Boston. He also started Glam Foods, a food coaching business with a mission to teach people to eat well and live healthier lives. In this program, his students began cooking creatively by using whatever ingredients were at their disposal to make satisfying meals — a method German has coined as "freestyle cooking."

Chef Turned Author

German first discovered StoryTerrace while reading an article about rule-breaking businesses on the Virgin blog. A huge fan of CEO Richard Branson, German was looking for a little inspiration to fuel his own entrepreneurial spirit. "Everyone wanted me to write a cookbook," he says, "but life’s timing is crazy."

That’s because, at the age of 53, while seeking treatment for what he thought was an ear infection, German was diagnosed with nasopharyngeal cancer, a type that is located at the back of the nose.

Instead of giving up on his book, he changed gears: "Cancer changed my whole philosophy. I knew I could put my power to good use helping others."

Although devastated to discover the shocking news, he knew at that moment that it was time to let the "dragon" out from within him to fight this cancer. He also knew that, like water, he had to adapt to and accept the situation, hence his book title - The Dragon Turns To Water with a Freestyle Lifestyle.

To that end, German set about telling the story of his diagnosis, treatment, and the ways he learned to cope with his illness. His goal in writing was to provide inspiration and support for others going through the same battle.

LISTEN to German Lam read an excerpt from his book describing his cancer and its treatment:

https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/tracks/808834894

Everyone Needs a Coach

German with his friend John Quackenbush, a cancer researcher

The biggest lesson German learned during his cancer treatment was simple yet profound: We need others.

German, a husband and father, is surrounded by a caring family, yet he quickly realized that he couldn’t rely on them alone for help. They were fighting their own battles, because German’s illness affected them, too. And, try as they might, they just didn’t know what it felt like to be unable to eat or do any number of life’s most basic tasks.

But life has a way of putting the right people in your path. German met John Quackenbush because their sons practiced Taekwondo together. They got to know each other as fathers first, but when German learned that John was a Harvard professor and cancer researcher, the two had an immediate bond. John helped German navigate through some of the most difficult times during his treatment. "He’s my brother for life," German says.

Food for Healing

German relied on carefully researched homemade smoothies when he couldn’t eat full meals

Because German’s cancer affected the nose and throat, the radiation treatment targeting these areas left him unable to eat. He was often in incredible pain as the powerful radiation led to sores on his tongue and mouth. "Treatment changes your whole system," German explains. "I knew I needed nutrients, or I would need a feeding tube."

As a chef, not being able to eat was a serious blow, as it took away one of German’s main joys in life. But he also used his extensive knowledge of food to create nutritious smoothies to stay nourished during his treatment. "There’s a reason behind every single ingredient," he explains. "Now I can share what I learned with others so they can nourish their body when it’s being attacked by cancer and radiation."

Being a family man, with a wife and two sons, when he was no longer able to cook himself, he taught them.

Lessons in Food

Ingredients for Chinese dumplings, a dish German taught his son to make when he was too sick to cook

At his lowest point, German wasn’t well enough to eat or strong enough to cook. One day, he walked his 17-year-old son Jonathan through the process of making dumplings. These complex little packets require careful folding to complete — patience and finesse that aren't exactly in a teenage boy’s wheelhouse of skills.

Still, German spent the day coaching his son. German couldn’t taste the filling, but he taught his son to do the tasting for him to make sure the flavors were perfectly balanced. "I’m relying on you to be my hands and to figure out when it’s just right," he said.

When they were done, German’s son had achieved a beautiful dish. German himself wasn’t able to partake, but he was very proud.

"Eating is so basic to life. It helps you grow and think," says German. "You need training to explore new foods, just like life, so that when something you rely on is gone, you have a lot more options to choose from to replace it in your life. Eating develops your personality."

His family was able to provide the food that German fell in love with, but they also supplied the love and support that he needed to pull through.

The Dragon Turns to Water

German and the proton radiation team at Massachusetts General Hospital

German’s radiation treatments required him to enter the depths of the radiation machine, a notoriously claustrophobic place. To add to the sci-fi creepiness of the experience, he also had to wear a mask and a special mouthpiece to protect the delicate skin in these areas from burns.

During his first session, German says he "went stir-crazy" and began to hyperventilate. The staff asked if he wanted to take some medication to help him calm down.

"No way!" he answered. "All medicines come with side effects, and I just didn’t want that. Instead, I knew I had to become like water. Just let go and flow."

Ringing the Bell

German with Laurie Frank of the radiation oncology team

At the end of radiation treatment, patients at Mass General ring the bell to announce that they have completed one of the hardest things they’ll ever go through. It’s a major milestone, and one that German couldn’t wait to achieve.

Still, the moment wasn’t quite what he had imagined. By the time he got there, he had been through so many physical and mental trials that he knew he would never be the same person that he was before.

"You always focus on the end, on ringing the bell. But there’s a lot of agony to get there. With cancer patients, you don’t always hear about the darkness, but it’s there."

On October 3, 2017, the cancer tumor had been successfully destroyed and German was given a clean bill of health. Still facing a long recovery period, it is German’s positive attitude, his support system and, of course, the dragon spirit inside of him, that keeps him hopeful every day in his life.

German likens his experience of treatment to Ash Wednesday. "Part of me on the inside is dead, is ash, but I still carry it with me."

In writing his book, he wants to let other cancer patients and survivors know that it’s okay to feel this way. You can’t be the same person you were, but you have been given an incredible gift.

"You have a second chance at life," he says. "So how do you want to live it?"

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For Senior Writer Jenn Upton, video calling can enable her to build a connection with her clients in much the same way as face-to-face interviews. Here, she shares her personal insight and top tips for preparation for your interviews.

Technology has played a significant role in my life.

Eight and a half years ago, I arrived in London with nothing but a laptop, a student visa, and one bag of clothing. It was the second big move in life. The first was from my small hometown in upstate New York to Los Angeles in my early 20s to find work in the film and television industries.

It was the late 90s, and although we had the internet, there were no video conferencing apps available yet, nor tablets or smartphones. For the next five years, I had to keep in touch with loved ones via good old-fashioned landline communication. Over time, the technology evolved, allowing me to see my mother and my “sister” Sammy, the cat I left behind when I moved away. The first time she joined us on a Skype call, she head-butted the camera and purred her heart out. For years, Mum and I spent every major holiday greeting each other through a screen, settling in with a nice cup of tea. When Sammy passed away at age 17, we cried together, 3,000 miles apart.

I’m a writer in London now, having joined the StoryTerrace writer pool in 2017. Until recently, a big part of the job involved meeting with clients in person, getting to know them and recording their stories to create the perfect book for their loved ones. That all changed with the outbreak of the coronavirus. Many people are self-isolating, including those considered high-risk like myself. Once again, technology has bridged the distance.

Getting ready for one of my client interviews with StoryTerrace from home

As an asthmatic, it gives me peace of mind to know that I can avoid public transportation and hopefully stay healthy while still maintaining a warm working relationship with my clients from the comforts of my flat in Southwest London.

As with anything, preparation is the key to success. There are a few things I do to ensure a smooth meeting.

Preparation

A day or two before the meeting, I make sure the client is familiar and comfortable with whichever software we will be using. There are plenty of options available, depending on the customer's level of technical knowledge.

If they need to download and install something and don’t consider themselves tech-savvy, I ring them and walk them through it over the phone. Most of the apps are easy to learn.

Aside from the technical concerns, I also reassure my interviewee that an online meeting will be just like being there with them.

My Top Tips for Making the Most of Remote Interviews

1. Set up a peaceful environment. Close all doors and windows, and turn noisy devices like fans off. This will eliminate as much background noise as possible. Ideally, set up your seating area in a well-lit location.
2. Make yourself presentable, just as if it were an in-person meeting. For audio-only calls, I wear my standard work-from-home uniform: a Ramones t-shirt and ripped jeans.
3. Prepare any notes or questions you have in a separate window on the computer. If the screen isn’t big enough to navigate between the meeting and a document easily, use hard copies. Have a notebook and pen ready.
4. Make a cup of tea and relax. Your writer will guide you, so don't feel that you have to remember everything about your life instantaneously.
5. Expect the unexpected! Remember the video of the little girl bursting into her father’s video call on BBC News last year? No matter how many times you see it, it never gets old. If a dog or child interrupts, it’s another way for a writer and client to get to know one another. Once, I conducted an entire in-person interview with a cat on my lap, and another time a Scottish terrier named “Wee Girl” beckoned me to a game of fetch. An occasional intrusion makes the process more fun for everyone.

The interrupted video call interview on live TV news that went viral:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Mh4f9AYRCZY

In the space of a week, I’ve done two video calls with clients. The first was with Sukhdev in Hounslow, the second with Francois in Chiswick.

The experience wasn’t much different from meeting someone in person. With Sukhdev, the main difference involved descriptions of individuals and locations from his past. In person, this would elicit a presentation of a family photo album or framed pictures from the mantelpiece. Since this wasn’t feasible, we engaged in a comprehensive conversation about the height, idiosyncrasies, and clothing of the most important people in his story.

Waving goodbye to my client Sukhdev after an enjoyable and fulfilling video call!

For locations, I Googled images of each client’s home village in India and France and discovered plenty of details with which to set the scenes in their respective books.

In terms of human interaction, the dynamics were the same online as in person. We made eye contact with each other and shared our love of tea. We laughed together over funny anecdotes and quickly developed an easy rapport that grew with each subsequent meeting.

On a call with one of my clients Francois - ready to listen to his stories, cups of tea at the ready!

Just as I have with my family over the years, technology has enabled me to have warm, meaningful exchanges with the people who have entrusted me to tell their stories. Technology is a bridge that connects us during the current social isolation. We are very lucky when compared to the people who lived through the 1918 influenza epidemic: They had no internet to help them get through it.

Fortunately, we are ready, willing, and able to get through this together, with an assist from the technology at our fingertips and the spirit of friendship in our hearts.

To find out more about Jenn, check out her writer bio here.

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UK’s leading biographers StoryTerrace launch free questionnaire to kick-start everyday Brits to document their family’s extraordinary life stories

As millions of us are now stuck at home, this period brings an opportunity to dial back and tune into one of the most cathartic creative outlets – writing. During this unprecedented time of social distancing, StoryTerrace introduces the ‘Tell Your Life Story’ questionnaire to allow those looking to document their story to complete the first step of StoryTerrace’s memoir-writing process for free - to give people an opportunity to reflect on their own journeys through life.

They can do this by signing up to StoryTerrace's unique in-house software platform called BookMaker. Alongside the questionnaire, users will also be able to have a go at creating their very own book cover, using the platform's Cover Creator tool.

The link to access the questionnaire and Cover Creator tool is: https://www.storyterrace.com/free-questionnaire

The questionnaire is free to complete, and the questions facilitate a deeply introspective look at the user’s own life. Regardless of whether users choose to continue on with the service, the completed questionnaire will be sent to the user so they can hold on to their personal stories. StoryTerrace believes that coronavirus confinement may help us rediscover the virtues of being together and sharing stories, and that this societal pause could be the opportunity we need to put pen to paper and document our most memorable experiences.

Nationally representative research from StoryTerrace has revealed that nearly 2 in 3 Brits feel that their parents have made life-changing sacrifices for them, and over a third believe that there are historical legacies in their family that will be forgotten if they are not discussed. It has also revealed that in times of health crisis or not, Brits have a hard time connecting with those they hold dearest - 45% of Brits learn more about their parents from pictures or speaking to other family members than directly from them.

StoryTerrace is keen to encourage people to look inward at their own trials and tribulations as well as reach out to loved ones to listen to their tales and memories. By documenting and recording the stories of your loved one’s life, not only can you preserve their legacy, but you can achieve a better understanding of the person that you are in the world today through the people who helped shape you.

Regardless of your individual circumstances, we all can be doing more to reach out to those we hold dearest, in times of health crises or not. Video calls, in particular, are a fantastic choice for people to connect on – particularly when they are isolating alone. For those of you who are staying at home for an extended period with your children, StoryTerrace ensures that putting together a biography will be an incredible trip down memory lane and a welcome distraction during this testing time.

StoryTerrace is keen to encourage everyone during this period of self-isolation to block out the outside world and be present with their loved ones by digging a little deeper and asking them about their most treasured memories and the experiences that define their life-stories.

Rutger Bruining, CEO and Founder of StoryTerrace comments:

“During the past month, we have seen an influx of requests from people looking to document their journey through life with StoryTerrace, and we believe it’s no coincidence that this has happened during a period of social distancing. As millions of people across the globe self-isolate, we are presented with a very unique opportunity for us to dedicate time to ourselves and practice some self-care. With the health crisis at hand, many of us are concerned for states of mind, but sharing stories and writing can be one of the most therapeutic ways for us to connect in this difficult time.

With the introduction of our ‘Tell Your Life Story’ campaign, we are encouraging anyone who has been thinking about writing a book or documenting their life story, or that of a loved one, to take advantage of this time and put pen to paper (or rather fingers to keys). In today's world of self-publishing, there is a very real opportunity for anyone to become a published writer. We've been very fortunate to help over a thousand of our clients write their memoirs or biographies with much success at StoryTerrace– both in and outside of self-isolation.

In order to accommodate government advice, we are offering video and phone interviews wherever necessary or requested for our service – as this is a great way to connect with your loved ones while still being mindful of their safety. Many of our clients have already successfully created beautiful books using our remote service - so we can be confident that if you choose to go down this route you will enjoy the experience and be delighted with the results. This means you can create your book with the help of our wonderful team of writers and editors without ever being in the same room. We can even send copies across the country for family and friends to enjoy at home.”

About StoryTerrace

StoryTerrace is a company that connects everyday people with professional ghost-writers, meaning that everyone can have their life story, or the life stories of their loved ones, documented in a professionally curated autobiography, biography, or series of memoirs. They have a network of 600 professional writers worldwide, many of whom are critically acclaimed, and provide a range of packages to suit each individual life story.

The interface of StoryTerrace's unique BookMaker platform includes the Cover Creator tool

If you would like to hear more from Rutger, please don't hesitate to contact us: press@storyterrace.com

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