Stephanie Taylor, CA
A storyteller through and through, writing about people’s stories is something that Stephanie has always been passionate about. Give her a person or an event, and she will weave together a story that paints an elaborate picture. Her writing has been published in the USA Today, Delta Sky magazine, Hello Giggles, FabFitFun, Essence, The Tulsa World and The Mighty, having covered topics from mental illness and disability to modern day feminism. When she is not writing, you can likely find her in a yoga studio or training for a race.
As a Story Terrace writer, Stephanie interviews customers and turns their life stories into books. Get to know her better by reading her autobiographical anecdote below.
Momma Knows Best
“Never settle for being someone’s second choice.” Words from my mom, words of wisdom. What often masquerades as rejection is really a mix of protection and redirection. One’s own individual identity is never worth the results that come from desperately wanting something: a lesson that I’ve had to learn from a young age.
Growing up, we forget that our parents have gone through the same things that we’re going through now. They’ve been there, done that, all the while watching us go through the exact same things.
When I was in middle school, a friend of mine had a birthday coming up. I desperately wanted to go. I remember all the girls talking about the upcoming festivities down to the smallest details. There was only one problem: I didn’t get an invite.
I went home and cried to my mom. I asked my mom all sorts of questions: Did these girls not like me anymore? Why wasn’t I included?
Days later, the birthday girl handed me an invite! She told me one of the girls wasn’t going to make it. She wanted to invite me in the first place, but her mom only allowed her to invite a certain number of people.
I was ecstatic. I ran home and told my mom all the details. I will never forget how she turned to me and politely said, “Stephanie, you’re not going.”
All of my confused emotions poured out as I cried and screamed. However, my mom just stood there, calmly waiting for me to finish. With my eyes puffed and my throat hoarse, she finally sat me down.
She said that if my “friend” wanted me at her party, she would have invited me from the beginning. I shouldn’t have to cry or beg to be included on someone’s “it” list. If I went, I would be settling for being someone’s second choice.
At the time, I didn’t understand what my mom’s words meant. All I knew was what I wanted, what I thought I needed. These words didn’t become clear to me until later on in my life, when desperation came knocking again only to be met with rejection. It was during this hard time that my mom’s words came back to me: “Never settle for being someone’s second choice.” Hearing those words again in my head, I couldn’t help but smile.
Yeah… I thought. Momma knows best.
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